Remember when marriage vows actually meant something? Couples actually would adhere to “I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.” The phrase, all the days of my life seem to actually mean, “until we come to a major hurdle in our marriage.”
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Pornography has a longstanding tradition for men. The first sign of porn was found in the late 1800s and was in the form of rock statues. Those who found the kinky stones were shocked and embarrassed. Not much has changed. Over time porn has existed in the form of magazines, books, drawings and even paintings. In this new millennium the most common forms of porn are videos and my favorite, the internet. The double standard that exists between the sexes concerning masturbating makes most believe that men consume the most porn. While this could be true, females are becoming turned on the by the idea and are not afraid to say it: “I love watching porn.”
As Valentine’s Day creeps around the corner, men and women are desperately browsing their partner’s favorite Web sites to find the perfect gift for the big V-day. While I was standing the greeting card isle I got to thinking, is it acceptable to keep gifts from your ex? By answering a few simple questions, you will know the proper ex-gift etiquette.
We can all agree that budding relationships are delicate and must be treated with care. As your relationship progresses, the bonds grow much stronger and it takes a lot more than “I’m just not that into you,” to break them. Some call the ultimate bond marriage, which can be shaken, but rarely broken. Two of my close friends’ lives made me realize that there are two sure fire ways to end your relationship.
Let’s face it, when your partner physically changes throughout the course of your relationship, it can be positive or negative. Here, I’d like to focus on negative changes, the most familiar of which being weight gain.
After countless conversations and a few years of analyzing, I’ve realized one thing: love is not black and white–love is very gray. Love is different for everyone. Some define it by emotional connections or companionship, but one thing is for sure; everyone wants “love.”
Growing up as an only-child, I rarely made sacrifices. I was late in learning how to share, have patience, and practice selflessness. Now I’m dealing with the consequences. It’s impossible to be in a serious relationship without learning how to surrender.
Cheating: to practice fraud or deceit; or informally to be sexually unfaithful.
Although this definition seems clear-cut, what constitutes cheating in a relationship is often ambiguous. For some, cheating includes intercourse but not oral sex. Some count French kissing but not closed mouth kisses. But what about holding hands or snuggling — physical acts that are more associated with emotional connections than physical acts of passion? To take it a step further, can you cheat without physically touching someone else? Is fantasizing about someone else during sex cheating? What about flirting online? Believe it or not, Wikipedia actually has a page for this subject, describing it as an affair of the heart.
At my former job I met a man I’ll call Scott. Scott came in multiple times to specifically seek my advice and stayed roughly an hour each visit. We talked about each others’ lives, specifically love and sex; I like to think these subjects are my forte and I talk about them with most everyone. The majority of the the conversations were about his ex and recent dates he went on. Once, when it was time for Scott to leave, I was on my way out for lunch. As we walked out together I said, “You know I don’t have that many good guy friends that I can chat with around here. We should be friends.”
I’m at the point in my life where almost everyone I know is getting engaged. I’ve been to three weddings this year, which is more than I’ve attended in my entire life. I’m surrounded by my friends with “wedding fever.” If they’ve been in a long-term relationship, they’re pushing for a proposal. If they’re single, they’re rushing to find someone. Why the sudden rush?
